VIP Spirit Message for Jo:
I’ve always had one foot in and one foot out our relationship. He always talks me into staying and saying that things will get better. Now we’ve been together for 18 years! Two kids (7 1/2 & 12) I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for the last 12 years, and I don’t know how I would support myself – my mom’s living with us! I’ve started having health problems, like hypothyroidism, chronic fatigue, and a rash on my face after a chemical peel that I’ve had to take antibiotics for seven months; still not clearing up now, my knees are starting to hurt. I’ve gained a bunch of weight since I stopped purging daily, and I feel so ugly; he is still infatuated with me and is a great dad. We had sex when I was motivated to have kids, but I haven’t slept in the same bed for the last 7 1/2 years. I have zero desire to be intimate with him or even make out. He says he doesn’t care, but he still loves me unconditionally. I love him like a best friend. I know he’s not my true love, but I’m scared to leave, scared to go without, and scared to break his heart. I feel like I’m being selfish, so I stay. I feel stuck; how do I trust that a better partner exists for me? Thanks, Jo
My heart goes out to you as a full-time wife, a mother, and a daughter.
Caretaking is one of the most demanding and challenging jobs, and it is undervalued and appreciated. You’re expanding all this energy, caring for everyone else’s needs while neglecting your health. Naturally, you’re sick and tired of everything, including your spouse. It’s easy to think that a new love(r) will take it all away for you and make you feel better. And I know you want me to tell you that the love of your life is somewhere out anticipating your arrival. In truth, the only one who will make you feel better and loved is you.
You are perfect in every way despite your weight and health.
You are exactly where you need to be, regardless of your circumstances. There’s no mistaking that you are blessed to be surrounded by family, with a husband, two children, and a mother who loves you unconditionally. Most people search their whole lives for someone who loves them just as they are.
Seeking a love affair will bring temporary fulfillment.
Unless you make some changes now for your better good, you can end up in the same situation where you are now. Wherever you go, you are the common denominator if you remain sick and tired. It’s hard to receive love when you have nothing to give. It’s easy to be disgusted by your partner because you’re disgusted with yourself and the surrounding circumstances. It may be that he, too, like your mother, is unwell, making you more sick and tired of caring for them all. Naturally, all this will make it hard for anyone to receive love around them when they have no love to give. Your well is dried up.
Start inside out by beginning to love yourself again.
I recommend you be selfish by carving out time for yourself in the day to give tender love and care to yourself, mind, body, and spirit. Start with a half-hour and increase to an hour. Focus on restoring your well-being by going outside for a walk, sleeping in, taking a bath, meditating, meeting a friend for lunch, joining a group, or taking to a class to restore a sense of self. When you feel good, you’ll see your world differently, including your circumstances. Your sex drive will return, too. When you genuinely love yourself as you are, you’ll easily attract your TRUE love.
I recommend reading Your Spirit Message that You are Loved
Tune into your spirit with WRWO 94.5 FM Radio Medium Laura Lee
